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“We were taught to share at the expense of our own well-being. We came to associate self-care and self-love with selfishness.” -Elizabeth Esther
I celebrated my birthday recently and the question I often received was, “what are you going to do today?” I responded with, “nothing” and kept it moving. There are several reasons why I could have responded by saying, “nothing.”
  1. I was choosing to implement self care by doing an activity I enjoy alone.
  2. I was celebrating with close friends and family and you don’t fit that category at the moment.
  3. I don’t want to tell you what I am doing for the day because I don’t have to.
  4. I’m going to repeat the previous one again. I don’t want to tell you what I am doing for the day because I don’t have to.
I take self care seriously and it is always a top priority over here. Do I slip sometimes? Yes, but I quickly get back on the self care wagon because I realize that it makes me feel better. This is why I chose to spend my birthday alone, eating crab legs, and watching a movie.
I think one of the biggest impediments on implementing healthy coping skills is having unhealthy boundaries. Boundaries can either make or break your self care routine. Why you ask? Because if you are a person who cringes at saying, “no” to others in fear that they will judge you, be upset, or you experience internal guilt, then we need to practice some strategies.
Self care is a choice that one has to consciously make to ensure your mental health is recharged.
Check out this article regarding self care and let me know your thoughts.